Prathima's Miles & Milestones

I would rather have sky-high standards than settle for even a little less than I deserve. Breaking the glass ceiling has to the aim since we all aim higher. Not someone who is stingy in attempts or taking risks.

I would rather be overly picky about who enters my world than completely indifferent. Sometimes life is about risking everything for a dream which no one sees but you.

I would rather stay single for a decade or two longer than the ‘average’ than jump into a relationship with someone who isn’t right for me.

Being ambitious has nothing to do with religion or its beliefs. If you don’t know to get your shit together, you are just not eligible to in my life. I am not going to babysit anybody.

I appreciate someone who is passionate about their hobbies. Of course, I love my job as an IT Professional which helps me pay for my hobby classes. I do love Mondays and chaos at work. But I want someone who doesn’t forget to make a life while making a living. Is it too much to ask for?

Be it sketching, theatre, running, cricket or playing an instrument — there should be something which gets one on an artistic high. Pursuing a hobby is not going to harm your day job unless you don’t plan it smartly. You need not hate your day job for it! We can rock both the worlds instead of wasting energy in complaining. Work isn’t the only aspect of life.

Every one of us has the same 24 hours in a day. Why not give your 100% effort to your hobby, as well as your job? Our body can do but it’s our mind which things we can’t. Train your mind first.

I’m not going to apologize for having standards — especially when I’m not holding out for anything crazy. I consider my requests reasonable. If you don’t think they’re reasonable, then you’re not the one for me. You can find someone else who is more accommodating.

When it comes down to it, I’m not asking for much. Artists and performers come with a lot of ambitions, also with a plan of accomplishments, and a lot of focus. I want someone who naturally meets my standards.

What I mean is, I don’t want someone who thinks to stay faithful is a daily chore. I don’t want someone who reluctantly agrees to take me grocery shopping. I don’t want someone who has to learn how to hold themselves back from cursing me out or taking a swing at me when I get on their nerves.

I want someone who is serious about committing to me. I want someone who is excited to spend weekends together, even when we’re doing something as mundane as deep cleaning or reading. I want someone who would never dream of hurting me, physically or emotionally.

I understand love isn’t going to be effortless for everyone. I’m happy to date someone who needs to put a little more work into being a good partner — as long as they show potential. As long as they are actively trying to move passed their past. As long as they make it clear they aren’t going to allow their fears to get in the way of their feelings for me.

I’m not going to date a repeat cheater. I’m not going to date a known liar. I’m not going to date someone who thinks they can skate through the relationship without planning breakfast or dinner dates or picking up flowers (or at least a coffee) from time to time. I’m not going to date the wrong person just so I can stop calling myself single.

I want someone who looks me in the eyes, hold my hands, and answers all part of my text messages. I’m not looking for the minimum amount of effort. I’m looking for someone who treats me right without being told. I’m looking for someone who surprises me with a bottle of wine and a weekend getaway, without me hinting about how badly I want those things. I want someone who goes out of their way to make me smile because it makes them smile.

I want some one who is mature enough to admit when they are wrong, mature enough to apologize, mature enough to make the changes necessity to better themselves.

I want to be swept off the feat but at the same time remaining safely, independant standing on my own. I don’t want friends with benefits, I want a relationship lasting until death and not a traitor.

I don’t want someone to say there’s more fish in the sea and let go easily when there are differences. I don’t want someone to hide me behind the instagram filter. I want a genuine person, not a placeholder. I want a life partner, not a warm body. I don’t want some one just for my instagram picture captioned couple goals or Sunday brunches. I am not someone who belives in swiping right for the right person. I am looking for a connection and the right vibe. Not the small talk.

I don’t care if I sound like a princess, like a spoiled brat, like a greedy bitch. If having any standards at all makes me picky, I guess I’m picky — but I’m sure my forever person will be able to deal with that. I’m sure my forever person will go above and beyond my expectations because they believe I deserve the best.