Prathima's Miles & Milestones

When two people are independent individuals, only then there is love. Love can flow only between two freedoms. Infatuation is when you find somebody who is absolutely perfect. Love is when you realize that they aren’t and it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how you look, what your weight is or how much make-up you put on, but the right guy will love you for what you are. It is not one’s fault to fall in love with your symmetrical you!

People are devastated when the person who felt so “right” ends up finding someone else who feels… more right. They escape every sign of incompatibility in favour of that feeling, which is mostly just the perfect cocktail of hormones and expectations.

The best relationship of your life will actually be with the person you’re not just passionate about, but also comfortable with. The soul mate who works out with you, run marathons, swims with you, dances with you, shops with you, travels with you, and plans the future goals to encourage you.

The truth is that you’ll have intense feelings for a number of people in your life, but meeting the person who is also your best friend… that’s the stuff magic is made of. It will be the person who satisfies you in that way, and then a thousand more. That’s the material for real joy.

It’s not that intimacy isn’t an important piece of the equation — it is. But it’s also just that: a piece. And for many people, if you were to take it away, there would be nothing left. The rest of life is made up of lunches and dinners, chores and day-in-and-day-out conversation. It’s built of holidays and vacations, and daily tasks. It’s the person you want to be by your side all the time. It’s not someone you meet up with on a Friday for wine and dine. Any relationship can feel good when that’s all there is.

But that isn’t what life is.

And that’s not what people are.

Love and compatibility are not the same things, and to complicate matters further, most people think love is that contact high they get when they meet someone that seems too good to be true. Love is that deep feeling of respect and cares you foster over time. You can know you’re interested in someone right from the beginning, and you can determine whether or not you are fundamentally compatible, too. But love is something you build.

It will be the person who you feel is on your side, not someone you have to try to earn love from. It will be someone you argue with and even have blown up fights with from time to time. But it is also the person you always come back to, the person you accept apologies from, the person you know you have to make it right with. It is the person you want to see every day, and the person you not only feel comfortable with but maybe feel more yourself than ever before.

Anything less is ordinary. Passion is easy because there’s no commitment. Building a forever relationship takes guts and the warm, deep companionship of someone with whom you have refused to give up on time and time again… even when all of those fuzzy, sparkly-eyed illusions have gone.

Sometimes strong girl just needs to be loved. Soon you’ll realise that many people will love the idea of you, but lack the maturity to handle the reality of you. But the idea ending would be the conversation like — You’re saying you need me? That must be hard for you to admit — We need each other. At last, some people are worth melting for (-_^)