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Taking Three Deep Breaths Before Reacting In Any Situation

Breathwork didn’t solve my problems — it just stopped me from becoming one. It is a small practice that taught me how to stay calm when everything else wasn’t. It took me years to realise something so simple: I often forgot to breathe. Not the automatic kind that keeps us alive — but the intentional kind that keeps us sane.

It is an important reminder that change doesn’t always require a massive overhaul. Sometimes the most transformative shifts come from showing up for yourself in tiny, consistent moments. I especially love this idea of the “3-Breath Reset” — it proves that reclaiming peace doesn’t have to take hours, just intention. It’s the quiet adjustments — choosing presence over panic, gratitude over autopilot — that slowly build a life that actually feels good to live. You know those moments when your phone buzzes for an important email and your stomach drops? Or when you’re already late, stuck in traffic, and your mind starts building a story about everything that could go wrong — That’s when I used to go into a downward spiral.

Now, I stop those racing thoughts running on my mind— and I breathe.

Just three deliberate breaths.
In for four seconds, out for six.

It sounds small, but that tiny pause has saved me countless times. It doesn’t fix the situation — the deadline is still there, I’m still on the road and not at the venue, the argument still happened — but it changes me in that moment. What’s worse that can happen? Can I change the past? No. But I pinch myself to register this feeling in my mind to ensure I do not repeat this mistake ever by leaving late. It reminds me I can respond instead of react.

Over time, I noticed a pattern:

• Before an important meeting, I breathe
• When a message doesn’t arrive, I breathe.
• When plans fall apart or words get misunderstood, I breathe.
• Even when I’m halfway through defending myself and realise I don’t need to, I breathe.

That breath has become my soft boundary — a line between who I was a second ago and who I still have time to be. The more I practised, the more I saw it everywhere. Athletes, singers, runners, martial artists, swimmers, and yoga practitioners—they all rely on breath. The way they control their breath is what makes them win, strike powerful moves, retrack, punch, defend, sing high notes, run uphills, recover and stay in sync. The first thing we do as we step into this world is breathe. It’s also the last thing we do before we leave this world. It fuels, steadies, and grounds them. For me, it became a quiet anchor in the noise of everyday life.

Breathing is free. Simple. Always available. Yet, it’s the one thing I ignored the most. Glad I’m in Bengaluru and not places like Delhi, where Pollution is insane & breathing without air purifiers is unhealthy. Touchwood. Now, I practice breathwork like a prayer — not to fix the moment, but to be present inside it.

So if you’re feeling overwhelmed today, try this:
Breathe in for four.
Breathe out for six.
Repeat it three times.

It’s such a great reminder that lasting change doesn’t come from huge life overhauls but from the small, consistent habits we build daily. And notice how, even if nothing around you changes, something inside you quietly does. And this brings us back to what truly matters. Breathwork is a perfect way to realign with peace and purpose — simple, practical, and truly transformative.

Hi, I’m Prathima 😊, Product builder by profession, seeker by soul — exploring prayer, purpose, and the poetry of everyday life. I write about mindful living, running🏃‍♀️, cooking🍳, and turning everyday routines into moments of happiness ✨.

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